One of the hardest things to deal with is trust.  I find this to be true with friendships. It’s not easy to know who you can let into your life. As I get older, my circle of friendships has become less and less. I find there isn’t loyalty anymore, and that takes away my ability to trust a person. The definition of loyal is an allegiance to a government, institution, religion, cause, product, or person. Being loyal is about giving constant support to another person. At the same time, there needs to be a motivation to have loyalty.

Loyalty can’t be bought. It’s not possible to buy the devotion of hearts, minds, and souls. These are things that must be earned by people. You stay with someone through it all, no matter the cost or even the disadvantage it may cause. It depends on honesty. If you can’t trust me, then loyalty can never exist. It means I support you in your interests and endeavors, even if I don’t share them. If you are passionate about something. It also means having empathy without judgment.  A firm rule that I have learned to live by is if a friend is talking about another friend to you, chances are pretty strong that the friend is talking about you behind your back too.

According to life coaches, loyalty is beneficial and comes with rewards in life.  The top reason for being loyal and for having loyalty in your life is that it will allow you to develop a stronger emotional connection with the people around you. It helps other people feel assured about you when they know you can commit to things. Some things to consider when deciding who deserves your loyalty and trust.

1. Loyalty helps build trust

Loyalty means having the ability to commit and stick with something even through difficult times. It could be in the form of staying in a relationship or a business partnership despite all the challenges. When you are faithful, it only shows your dedication to the other party, and they will see you more in bright light because they will know that they have value in your eyes. In addition, you help others develop trust in you if you can show commitment.

2. Loyalty helps form better relationships

You can’t deny the importance of loyalty when developing real relationships. People will want somebody they can depend on and feel secure when dealing with things. Romantic relationships become more robust when loyalty and trust exist between both parties. The same thing also happens in business between a company and its customers. When a company remains loyal to its customers by providing what they like, it has better customer retention and more satisfied customers. As an employee, sticking to your company for a long time can help establish reliability, and you might even get a promotion in the long run. Your co-workers can also treat you with more respect.

3. Loyalty creates security

Loyalty matters when it comes to creating a sense of security in relationships. It’s challenging to feel secure when dealing with somebody who’s got a chronic behavior of switching sides depending on what’s beneficial to him. Suppose you are a team leader or a manager in an office setting. In that case, it’s easier to entrust work to somebody who sticks to his work responsibilities rather than somebody who drops things in the middle once things start to get rough. Between friends and family, there’s a better atmosphere created when you are loyal and trust each other.

4. Loyalty makes you commit better

Staying loyal to a cause makes it easy to work harder and exert efforts toward fulfilling goals. When we create goals, we envision the desired result in our minds, and there is some form of reward at the end. By remaining loyal to why we do things, you can commit better to working hard to fulfill them. In relationships, if you know that you are deriving happiness from your partner, you will feel more inclined to practice honesty and be loyal to them. The same thing can also happen in a friendship.

5. Loyalty returns good karma

When you show loyalty to others, expect some good karma to return your way. People can like you better. The result is that you gain more friends in your life. You also build meaningful connections with everybody, so expect people to be loyal to you. In addition, you gain respect from others because you treat them well personally.

6. Loyalty establishes good character

Loyalty also sets us who we are by showing our true feelings to others, no matter who they are. You will not appear genuine if the quality of your personality changes from one person to another. By being loyal to ourselves, we can form deeper bonds with others by interacting with them based on how we honestly think and feel. Other people will treat you with respect if they see you as a man of integrity and sincerity.

The only people I owe my trust or loyalty to are those who never made me question theirs to me. Loyalty still exists today, but it’s not necessary today. Understanding how trust and loyalty work will help you decide rationally who deserves your devotion. Nothing is better than having a friend you can always depend on, it’s what’s meant to be in this life. Finding people who are loyal deserve my entire admiration and respect. Just as they are loyal, they are reliable and morally sound, people that I can trust, and nothing compares to them. Whether you have a person in your life a day or a lifetime, ask yourself this question of each person, “Can I trust you?” It’s an important question that can save you a lifetime of hurt and regret.  I don’t chase after anyone. So-called friends who want to go can go. do not have the energy to chase what is not for me. Life is too short for me to run miles for people who don’t take steps for me.