Ever look in the mirror and say to yourself, “Wow, have I changed?” I don’t mean physically but as a person. I came from a town that I thought was a great place to live. Stores were at a premium, the best florist in the area, and plenty of things to do.
Can I Trust You?
One of the hardest things to deal with is trust. I find this to be true with friendships. It’s not easy to know who you can let into your life. As I get older, my circle of friendships has become less and less. I find there isn’t loyalty anymore, and that takes away my ability to trust a person. The definition of loyal is an allegiance to a government, institution, religion, cause, product, or person. Being loyal is about giving constant support to another person. At the same time, there needs to be a motivation to have loyalty.
Testing Your Friendships
There are friendships that are said to go through long periods of time without talking, and those two people can proceed into their relationship together like no time has been lost. I often think twice about this saying, not because I don’t think that people couldn’t get back on the beat, but like any relationship, it needs to be nurtured and cared for if it’s ever going to grow. Friendships have a positive effect on our lives.
Friends that Never Leave
There are tried and true signs of whether a friend wants to be in your life or not. You think that they are your friend, maybe even your best friend, but in reality, they’re just looking for the next best thing. We all have them, and it may take a few times or more to figure them out, but soon you will find that your true friends are the ones texting you in the early morning hours, double-fisting ice cream and a roll of cookie dough after you just had an argument with someone in your life.
Sometimes it can be challenging to know what direction life is taking you. It may be in our careers, relationships, or just everyday living. Our hearts tell us to go one way, but our mind challenges us to do the opposite. It’s frustrating to know who to listen to, our hearts or our minds.
There is so much pressure to be married today. I’m not sure where thinking came from that if you’re married that you would never be alone. Life doesn’t work that way. I’ve seen so many people get married, have children, and find themselves without their partner and their children away. The truth is, being single seems to still be taboo today.
Sometimes realizing who you’re true friends are is the hardest and most unpleasant experiences. It’s a hurtful experience to have to go through, but in the long run, it’s good to know who you can and can’t depend on in life.
Finding True Serendipity
Society has a funny way of making its demands known to people, that at times, it seems challenging to make decisions on our own. One demand, in particular, is that we need to be married. It isn’t often that I meet people who say that they wish to find a good job, buy a home, and stay single. It always seems to be the opposite. They want to find a good job and buy a home and get married. Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to be in a relationship or to get married?
When thinking about fear, it is a vital response to what we see and feel. If we didn’t feel fear we wouldn’t know how to protect ourselves from potential threats. Today, our common fears have to do with the ability to impress others, and how their judgments affect our self-worth. This is especially true with so many people using social media. However, here is something that many may not talk about, and that’s how fear comes out of anxiety.
Common interests that bring people together, stressful situations, shared values, and having the ability to support and encourage another person is what draws people together. It’s what brings us to make friends and to be worthy of being called a friend.