One of the hardest parts of life is the moment that we realize that we are being ignored. For whatever reason, it feels like being ignored seems more scary and intense than having someone argue with you.
I came to think about what it really meant to have a soulmate. I’m not one that believes that there is just one single person out there, but many if we allow ourselves. There are people with that we will feel a connection, but to hold ourselves to just one person can cause a great deal of unnecessary heartbreak. It instills this thinking that there is this one perfect person out there for each of us. We have accepted the world’s idea of finding true love to mean that there is a match made in heaven.
There are tried and true signs of whether a friend wants to be in your life or not. You think that they are your friend, maybe even your best friend, but in reality, they’re just looking for the next best thing. We all have them, and it may take a few times or more to figure them out, but soon you will find that your true friends are the ones texting you in the early morning hours, double-fisting ice cream and a roll of cookie dough after you just had an argument with someone in your life.
Who hasn’t heard the saying, “misery loves company?” I’m not sure of its true meaning, but I’ve heard often during my lifetime. I think what gets the most is does misery love the company, or is it the other way around? It’s a question that I’ve asked myself time and again.
There is so much pressure to be married today. I’m not sure where thinking came from that if you’re married that you would never be alone. Life doesn’t work that way. I’ve seen so many people get married, have children, and find themselves without their partner and their children away. The truth is, being single seems to still be taboo today.
Who knew that even as an adult, we would still have to deal with being a part of the in-crowd. I never liked the specific groups that were formed as a young person in high school. I didn’t understand why we all couldn’t be accepted for who we were as individuals. The popular, jocks, the fine arts, the brains, the burnouts, the goths, and the loners were just some of the groups that we felt like we had to try and fit into growing up.
Society has a way of telling people that being single isn’t a good thing, but in reality, it’s healthy to be single. Movies, television, and books are constant reminders that we have to find our soul mate. That there is this rush to find that one person to complete us, and that single people are unhappy because they don’t have a significant other. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, single people self-reported levels of well-being that were similar to participants in relationships.
Society has a funny way of making its demands known to people, that at times, it seems challenging to make decisions on our own. One demand, in particular, is that we need to be married. It isn’t often that I meet people who say that they wish to find a good job, buy a home, and stay single. It always seems to be the opposite. They want to find a good job and buy a home and get married. Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to be in a relationship or to get married?
This weekend, I was looking around my Instagram account and a picture of someone familiar to me came up in my news feed. I felt my heart sink when I looked closer at the picture. Pictures can tell us a lot about people and their relationships.
Life is filled with changes every day. Some of those changes are most difficult to go through than others, but I also think about how that change affects the person’s daily living. What I mean by this thinking is that changing your hair color over changing careers may be easier to manage. It comes down…