I rarely find myself disappointed by others. Perhaps it’s because I try to think of the worst situation, but hope for the best. It was something that I was taught years ago, but every so often someone will bring about those feelings that I feel frozen, and my heart breaks into what feels like a million pieces. I call this feeling a disappointed heart. Disappointment puts us in a place where we are standing still and we aren’t always sure what to do.
Love isn’t as easy as it was even ten or fifteen years ago. I often think about how technology is making it harder to find someone to love, but I also think about how easy it is to fall for people by what they include online. We can follow someone’s pictures and posts and think to ourselves “this person is exactly what I’m looking for, they’re cute, funny, and would make the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.” The hard part of it all is that it’s not always completely accurate.
Have you ever met someone, either on social media or in person, and immediately realize that this was the person that has influenced you in some way, you just want to get to know them better. Maybe not in the way that many people would categorize “getting to know someone.” It could be a friendship, or perhaps for some it could be something more, but whatever that feeling takes you, it’s really about the idea of meeting someone that brings you to wanting to be a better person than you are today.
Loss comes at different seasons of our lives and for different reasons. It triggers an emotion within ourselves as a result of some life circumstance. There are many who believe that mourning is best when we find closure, but the idea of getting over it and the extent of the emotions triggered is a myth. I’m not sure if we really ever get over the loss of someone, as much as we learn to cope.
From elementary school through college, making lasting friendships was much easier than when we get older. We find that people become less willing to make new connections with one another. That’s difficult to accept, especially if you view your friends to be a lot like an extended family. Not everyone marries and has children, either it is by choice or because they just didn’t find a person that was right for them. Whatever the reason, friendship is an important part of life.
Technology is supposed to make our lives easier. It’s supposed to give us more time to do the things that we want to do in life. We are to be able to spend more time with friends, family, and making time for ourselves, but it feels like just the opposite. Instead, we’ve become busier and we use technology as a way of communicating to build or keep relationships going.
If you have ever watched the movie, The Way We Were, then you are familiar with the ever-famous song Memories. As I think about the holidays, I am reminded of how life is unpredictable. How quickly life can change. Life is so short, and within an instant, the life that we are accustomed to could very well be different.
Life is filled with changes every day. Some of those changes are most difficult to go through than others, but I also think about how that change affects the person’s daily living. What I mean by this thinking is that changing your hair color over changing careers may be easier to manage. It comes down…
Think about the last time that you made a new friend? Or maybe grabbed lunch with an old friend? As children, it seemed so much easier to make friends than it does as an adult. As we get older, finding time becomes less and less, yet think about friendships as the equivalent to going to…
With technology taking over, we are more alone than ever. Instead of talking with people or spending time with others, we have become more reliant on ourselves. That’s not a bad thing, if we know to embrace it. Knowing how to use solitude wisely can bring about a renewed self. Without understanding how to be…