I sat down this week to watch my favorite all-time television series of four women whose friendships have taken them through the trials of this thing we call life. From dating, marriage, children, love, and loss; these four women stood by each other through it all. I wondered why I’ve always loved this series, and I came to realize it’s the friendship that they have in each other. It’s something that I keep missing in my own life.
Your Authentic Self
Ever look in the mirror and say to yourself, “Wow, have I changed?” I don’t mean physically but as a person. I came from a town that I thought was a great place to live. Stores were at a premium, the best florist in the area, and plenty of things to do.
Can I Trust You?
One of the hardest things to deal with is trust. I find this to be true with friendships. It’s not easy to know who you can let into your life. As I get older, my circle of friendships has become less and less. I find there isn’t loyalty anymore, and that takes away my ability to trust a person. The definition of loyal is an allegiance to a government, institution, religion, cause, product, or person. Being loyal is about giving constant support to another person. At the same time, there needs to be a motivation to have loyalty.
The Silent Treatment
One of the hardest parts of life is the moment that we realize that we are being ignored. For whatever reason, it feels like being ignored seems more scary and intense than having someone argue with you.
I came to think about what it really meant to have a soulmate. I’m not one that believes that there is just one single person out there, but many if we allow ourselves. There are people with that we will feel a connection, but to hold ourselves to just one person can cause a great deal of unnecessary heartbreak. It instills this thinking that there is this one perfect person out there for each of us. We have accepted the world’s idea of finding true love to mean that there is a match made in heaven.
Testing Your Friendships
There are friendships that are said to go through long periods of time without talking, and those two people can proceed into their relationship together like no time has been lost. I often think twice about this saying, not because I don’t think that people couldn’t get back on the beat, but like any relationship, it needs to be nurtured and cared for if it’s ever going to grow. Friendships have a positive effect on our lives.
Friends that Never Leave
There are tried and true signs of whether a friend wants to be in your life or not. You think that they are your friend, maybe even your best friend, but in reality, they’re just looking for the next best thing. We all have them, and it may take a few times or more to figure them out, but soon you will find that your true friends are the ones texting you in the early morning hours, double-fisting ice cream and a roll of cookie dough after you just had an argument with someone in your life.
Misery Loves Company
Who hasn’t heard the saying, “misery loves company?” I’m not sure of its true meaning, but I’ve heard often during my lifetime. I think what gets the most is does misery love the company, or is it the other way around? It’s a question that I’ve asked myself time and again.
Sometimes it can be challenging to know what direction life is taking you. It may be in our careers, relationships, or just everyday living. Our hearts tell us to go one way, but our mind challenges us to do the opposite. It’s frustrating to know who to listen to, our hearts or our minds.
There is so much pressure to be married today. I’m not sure where thinking came from that if you’re married that you would never be alone. Life doesn’t work that way. I’ve seen so many people get married, have children, and find themselves without their partner and their children away. The truth is, being single seems to still be taboo today.