This weekend, I was looking around my Instagram account and a picture of someone familiar to me came up in my news feed. I felt my heart sink when I looked closer at the picture. Pictures can tell us a lot about people and their relationships.
I often wondered what made us become attracted to some people and not to others. Is it something within our DNA, or is it that stars align themselves in such a way, that we can’t deny our feelings? These are the questions that I asked myself, and yet, hadn’t been able to find the answers, that is, until now.
There isn’t one person who is immune to the emotions that are found with jealousy and envy. At some point in life, we have all experienced it. Either it is at work, within friendships, or something else; jealous and envy are very real feelings that have a way of effecting your life. Fortunately, there is a way to not let these emotions overpower your life. There are ways of getting through it, but it’s also important to understand the difference between being jealous and being envious.
I rarely find myself disappointed by others. Perhaps it’s because I try to think of the worst situation, but hope for the best. It was something that I was taught years ago, but every so often someone will bring about those feelings that I feel frozen, and my heart breaks into what feels like a million pieces. I call this feeling a disappointed heart. Disappointment puts us in a place where we are standing still and we aren’t always sure what to do.
Love isn’t as easy as it was even ten or fifteen years ago. I often think about how technology is making it harder to find someone to love, but I also think about how easy it is to fall for people by what they include online. We can follow someone’s pictures and posts and think to ourselves “this person is exactly what I’m looking for, they’re cute, funny, and would make the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend.” The hard part of it all is that it’s not always completely accurate.
Have you ever met someone, either on social media or in person, and immediately realize that this was the person that has influenced you in some way, you just want to get to know them better. Maybe not in the way that many people would categorize “getting to know someone.” It could be a friendship, or perhaps for some it could be something more, but whatever that feeling takes you, it’s really about the idea of meeting someone that brings you to wanting to be a better person than you are today.
Often I hear so many people ask the question: “where does the time go?” It’s not an unusual question, especially with so many graduations taking place during this time of year. I often have to hold myself back from saying what is really on my mind, “time didn’t just slip away, you allowed yourself to become too busy.” I think that this is very true. We’ve trained ourselves to keep our lives filled to the brim with work, errands, and chores. It’s easy to understand why many feel that time has slipped away from them.
Technology is supposed to make our lives easier. It’s supposed to give us more time to do the things that we want to do in life. We are to be able to spend more time with friends, family, and making time for ourselves, but it feels like just the opposite. Instead, we’ve become busier and we use technology as a way of communicating to build or keep relationships going.
For many, friends have become our families. Perhaps speaking to family that you haven’t seen in a while or maybe even over the past year. No matter however long that it has been, we find that it’s the distance of family, both emotionally as well as the miles. However, what is found most interesting is…
Over the years, I have had to make two difficult decisions for me. The first was deciding where I would live, and the second being what type of career that I would pursue. I’ve had to reinvent myself over the years. I went to college to become a private practice counselor. Although instead, I have found my greatest passion to be in writing. My hope is to write full-time someday.