I often use social media to speak with people that I haven’t seen in a long time. The idea of face-to-face contact seems to be slowly drifting away. It’s nice to see the pictures of my friends and their families, but when you’re single, sometimes those pictures can be a reminder of how difficult relationships can be today. I’ve always been happy for those around me who have found happiness, but I often wonder, why is so hard to find good relationships?

It seems more and more, it’s become difficult to find relationships. Instead, I hear people say that they met someone out of chance or that they met someone and it was too good to pass up. That’s all great, but what about the person who hasn’t been so lucky. Even when we put ourselves out there..we still find ourselves without someone. I have to wonder if there are just some of us who are destined to have good friends rather than good husbands or wives. Perhaps loving ourselves first is the step needed before we can even begin to love another person. I don’t believe that we are destined to be alone. Often what’s meant to be is to have great people who fill our lives with just as much color and happiness as those who are in relationships. No matter what, you can be single and happy. We don’t have to feel that we are missing out on anything. What we may forget is that having a full life and feeling fulfilled brings just as much happiness.

A chance meeting can happen at any time in our lives. There is no expiration date to finding a relationship. We may think that we’re open to it, but our body language says something totally different. Actions can speak louder than words and we don’t even know it. All the signs are there, but we just didn’t see them. A new year has arrived. A year that is fresh for new experiences and a new way of looking at relationships. I would challenge you to get an empty jar, a jar that I called the Serendipity Jar. Every day, write a positive message about relationships and put in your jar. At the end of the year, on New Years, open your Serendipity Jar and read all of your positive messages. I found it really can work and you can open yourself up to whole new relationship.