Sometimes I just sit in the quiet of my thoughts and often I find myself fearing that I will have a future all alone. Those thoughts come out of seeing family and friends, even social media such as Facebook, seem to increase those fears. I think there are many people who look at what others have, relationships, marriage, children, careers and we find ourselves comparing our lives with those of others. A competition of sorts, but are there really any winners or are we just caving into our own insecurities?

This is the important question when evaluating our lives. The world puts many expectations on each person to live up to a certain standard. A taboo of what you can or can’t do. Who you can fall in love with, where and if you could go to college, and the type of life that is expected of us, but the reality is life isn’t about rules or expectations. It’s about truly living and finding that the choices that we make for ourselves are true to who we really are and what we want to become in this life. We create our own garden of flowers and it’s up to us to nurture that garden to grow. We can choose to excel and beat the odds. Or we can falter and live by self-fulfilling prophecies of failure. Maybe even loneliness.

We aren’t promised tomorrow. We can only count on today. So whatever it is that you’ve wanted to achieve. Or those unspoken words that you haven’t revealed, now is the time to accomplish what you’ve kept locked away in your hearts. These are words that I too need to remember. Because when we begin to take those chances we no longer sit in those quiet moments and think about what we don’t have, but instead by taking those chances we think about all we do have in this life.

If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. No one promised that life would be easy, just that it would be worth it.