It seems that we are always in contact with someone who is looking for that right relationship. That person that we connect with, that has the same interests, and even at times the right address. No matter what we are seemingly looking to fill the void with people. With online dating and making friends through the internet, we find ourselves more prone to disappointment it seems harder to find that strong relationship. So what happens when the feelings fade? Where do the broken hearts go? What if I told you that there is a condition called Broken Heart Syndrome would you believe that it was real?
Broken Heart Syndrome is triggered by extreme emotional or physical stress such as a car accident or the loss of a person. These types of stresses cause the heart to break and can temporarily enlarge and weaken the heart. Broken Heart Syndrome includes shortness of breath and pain in the chest. It is a perfect example of how the brain connects to our hearts. But even if we are suffering from Broken Heart Syndrome, there are ways to heal. According to World Psychology there are ways to get through Broken Heart Syndrome.
Go through it, not around it. The most difficult task for a person with a broken heart is to stand still and feel the crack. But that is exactly what she must do. There is no quick fix to taking away the pain, but eventually you will become a stronger person that is able to take on problems head on. Soon the pain begins to no longer take a stronghold over you.
Detach and revel in your independence again. Attempting to fill the void yourself — without rushing to a new relationship or trying desperately to win your lover back — is essentially what detaching is all about.
List your strengths. When going through that pain, putting on that great song or that best movie can help us through the process and empowers us.
Help someone else. Helping someone else who is struggling helps you to heal as well, especially if you’re going through the same pain. Why you ask? This allows for you to forget about yourself for a split moment. And let’s face it that, on some days, feels like a miracle.
Laugh. And cry. Laughter heals on many levels, but also cry. William Frey who has spent 15 years as head of a research team studying tears found that emotional tears (as compared to tears of irritation, like when you cut an onion) contain toxic biochemical byproducts, so that weeping removes these toxic substances and relieves emotional stress. So go grab a box of Kleenex and cry your afternoon away.
Make a good and bad list. You need to know which activities will make you feel good, and which ones won’t, such as laughing over coffee with a new friend.
Work it out. Working out your grief quite literally — by running, swimming, exercising, walking, or kick-boxing — is going to give you immediate relief. On a physiological level, exercise increases the activity of serotonin stimulates the brain
Create a new world. This is especially important. Create your own safe world — full of new friends, but also take this opportunity to try something new — an art class, a book club, or learning how to golf. Finding a program that your mind and body will allow you to expect a fresh beginning.
Find hope. Believing that a better place exists, that the aching emptiness experienced in your every activity won’t be with you forever, that one day you’ll be excited to make coffee in the morning or go to a movie with friends. Hope means to believe that the sadness can disappear, that if you try like hell to move on with your life, your smile won’t always be forced. Therefore in order to forgive and to move past fear, you need to find hope.
The most important is to remember to love again. We can hide parts of our heart hoping to never hurt again. Or we can love again knowing that the pain or disappointment we felt will make us stronger. This is where we find so many broken hearts go.